Flying Solo

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Every time I see those little cookie vases I smile. It is the simple things in life that are so significant.

Well hard to believe that it is already the middle of March. Happy St. Patty’s Day to all my Irish readers. I am about 50% Irish myself, guess that is why I enjoy beer so muchSmilest-patricks-day

My husband, Steven returns late tomorrow. He doesn’t travel without me so being home alone is unusual although I must confess not unpleasant. It is nice not to have the responsibilities that come along with being a wife for a little while. Not that he is demanding or anything but its nice not to have to be responsible to anyone else for a bit, well except the animals.

Steven and I have been married 7 years this June. Second time around for each of us. As I think back to when we were first married and how I would have felt and acted with his week long absence as compared to today I am very aware of how much I have grown and matured. It is amazing how REAL love makes you feel secure. This security is mostly because I have grown in the Lord these past years AND I am married to a truly wonderful man.

I have made great use of my time alone this week. I am so pleased with the fact that I committed and followed through with early morning rising and journaling every day! Wow, good for me! I have kept a journal for years but never with great consistency. I am still using the same one I wrote in 3 years ago, does that tell you something? Well I was inspired by Cee and Chris who are working through the Artist’s Way and have been journaling 3 pages everyday. I am really impressed with what my journaling has produced over the week and I intend to keep it up.

I have also been really blessed to spend time with each of my daughters, my mom and tomorrow my sister. Last night after work I met my oldest, Emily, at this fabulous place I found on Yelp.IMG_2894 I use Yelp often when I am looking to explore a new area for great eateries. We ordered salads, entrees and even splurged on dessert. Every bite was excellent and I enjoyed left overs today. I will be returning again soon and often.

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I also recommitted myself to Weight Watchers. I am a lifetime member…that means I made my weight loss goal(last March) and no longer pay.  I continued to attend weekly meetings for several months after achieving my weight loss goal but then my life changed and I stopped attending. Well guess what happened? Yep, over the past several months I gained some weight. Not terrible just about 10 pounds or so but I know what can happen and I refuse to do this again. So I cracked out the little WW calculator and began counting points. I have lost about 5 pounds. I plan to lose the rest and then get back to meetings. For me the weekly weigh in keeps me honest and I need that. Next thing is for me to get back on track with some regular exercise. I sure hope I will be writing a post about conquering this hurdle next month!

Well for tonight I think I will go plug into a movie. I borrowed a few from the library and have not watched a one.

Thanks for reading.

 

 

International Women’s Day

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When we are born we are designed with personalities, talents and gifts to help us succeed in our God given purpose. The people that are placed into our lives whether it be for a lifetime or a season help to shape us.

In honor of International Women’s Day I have decided to write my blog today about two very important and special women in my life. My mother Helen and sister Kelly.

My relationships with each of them has changed over the years with the seasons of our lives. Most all of my memories are positive, for this I am very thankful.

Kelly and my relationship has been interesting over our adult life. She left CT as soon as she graduated HS to join the service. Shortly thereafter she was married and in rather quick succession had three beautiful kids. She lived “away” for nearly 10 years. Visiting occasionally but we were never really what I would define as “close”.

When she decided to move home to CT I offered to have her and her 3 kids come to live with us(husband and my 3 kids). She lived with us for 2 years. Our kids were young and became like siblings. She and I however still did not share that sacred sister bond that I longed for. I can remember in the summer of 2011 when I was away as a camp nurse for the summer I sent her an email and said something like, I want to be close, to which she replied ok let’s be close. I returned home and shortly thereafter Kelly and her children moved cross country. We did not keep that commitment.

Kelly came back again a few years later. Kids were bigger and she had plans to go to school. She moved in with mom. It was nice to have her back “home” again but we still didn’t have that sisterly relationship I hoped and longed for.

Almost 2 years ago my sister got some difficult news. I offered to help in any way I could. It was a stressful time for her but many decisions and appointments later she had the outcome we had been praying for. A few months later she sent me a note card. She joked about some of the unexpected discoveries during this painful season of her life and the positive things that had come of it…our relationship being the brightest star.

Its been 2 nearly year since that walk and our friendship has definitely grown. We talk or text pretty regularly. We get together as often as our schedules permit.

This for me is a reflection of the scripture Romans 8:28-And we know that in all things God works for those who love him and are called according to his purpose.

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From left to right- mom, me and sister. November 2010 celebrating their birthdays.

Life is to be Lived

As Sunday evening draws to a close one week ends and another on the verge of beginning. Time is a peculiar thing. We complain that we don’t have enough yet we wish the days past longing for the weekend. How did you spend your weekend? Did you indulge? Did you make your heart sing? Did you write a blog post for Share Your World or Jakesprinter Landscape Challenge? I did a few of all these things.

Date Night on Friday with my favorite guy at one of our favorite places to eat called the Bridge in Westerly RI. Good food, cheap beer and live music.

On Saturday I was blessed to get a new office chair and the re-gifting of a computer monitor for my home office. Cooked a wonderful meal at home and shared it with 3 of my favorite guys, hubby Steven, son Joshua and stepson Jeremy. Good food and good company.

Sunday morning found me in my house of worship enjoying the presence of the Lord. Afterward we went to lunch with Steven’s daughter Christina and our granddaughter Piper.

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Having sufficiently dined we headed home to change into some warmer clothes, get Haley and go for a walk along the river.

It was hard to keep the dog from going nuts when the four deer arrived on the scene. I thought this one was going to run right into me.

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Below you see the Mohegan Sun Casino towering above the tree line. Looking at it from the sky it has the appearance of an arrow. It is a beautiful building inside and out.

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Norwich is a river community with many old factories such as the one pictured below.

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This railroad has plates dating 1923. Pretty cool in my opinion.

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These old rail ties are just laying around. Wonder what the purpose is now?

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In the water is the remnants of an old boat.

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The walk was nice. Beautiful, crisp day as you can see. When I got home I made a movie with the photo’s I snapped of Piper(the red headed cutie) and will post it to Facebook for her Great Granny to see; I know she will enjoy it.

Hope that you had a great weekend.

My Greatest Achievement

The #MyPath Challenge Day 3

The present is the blocks with which we build.
  – Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

 

People constantly pursue that which they have failed to accomplish, and in doing so, often forget the goals that they have succeeded in reaching. Today, write about an achievement of yours that you are proud of, and the effect that it has had on your self-perception.

I have experienced the joys of many successes in my 47 years. The most significant achievement of my life bringing pride, laughter, joy, tears and memories would be the raising of my three beautiful children.

My children, now young adults themselves, in varying stages of independence are each bright and shining stars of the future and my greatest achievement.

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Joshue, Emily and Jessica(left to right)

What to say when someone you know has breast cancer

So someone you know has breast cancer.

Of course you want to be a support, a friend so you call.

Here are some pearls of wisdom, again taken from my work with women struggling with the disease.

  1. First of all be a listener. Your friend has just been given some very difficult information and she needs to talk. You just need to listen.
  2. Do Not tell them about your co-worker or Great Aunt Kitty, everyone’s treatment is unique.
  3. Don’t offer up statistics. These are only numbers and often skewed to serve the group presenting the information. Your friend IS NOT a NUMBER.
  4. Please don’t tell she is strong and will get through this. While this may be very true what she really needs is permission to feel the emotions she is experiencing.
  5. Be with her for the long haul. Cancer treatment can take almost a year to complete if you need to have surgery, chemotherapy and radiation. The struggles and fear go well beyond the first couple of weeks.
  6. Have I mentioned…be a good listener. You don’t have to say anything in fact it is often better if you don’t.
  7. She will be tired as her body tries to repair the cells that are damaged. Encourage her to rest. Offer to clean her house or do the laundry.
  8. Make her a pillow to protect her from the seatbelt harness.
  9. Buy her a new pair of button up pretty pajama’s to wear when she is recovering from surgery.
  10. If you are not sure what to say don’t say anything at all, just be there.

While everything written above may sound like “common-sense” I can assure you that it is not. I have heard terrible stories from women struggling with cancer that have had terrible and upsetting things said to them during their treatment. Remember the story and choice(s) are theirs to make, don’t judge or tell them what YOU would do…be thankful that you don’t have to really think about what you would do!

Thanks for reading.

Below is a link to a website that allows you to simply click and money gets added into the breast cancer research fund. Consider taking the extra moment and clicking.

http://click4breastcancer.org/click-for.php?entered=true

 

Sunday in the Park

Today after church my husband and I spent the day in the park where we were married. We invited one of our daughter’s, her husband and our grandaughter to join us.

The day was beautiful. The sky was mostly sunny and had some really cool clouds over the sound. The trees have no leaves due to the recent hurricane that ripped up the coast leaving us without power for 6 days.

 After a simple meal of fresh fruit and sandwiches with fresh chicken salad we played a game of bocci ball. Boys against the Girls-we should have let Piper help us maybe we would have done better.

After the game it was time to fly kites. The park is known to attract many kiteflyers as it has great wind and wide open spaces.

It was said that I am the only person known that can turn kite flying into an aerobic activity!

A walk was next on the agenda. The park is really quite beautiful overlooking the Long Island Sound, gardens, dunes and great open space.

 

The flowers are still blooming although many are past prime the butterflies still enjoy the sweet nectar.

We had a wonderful day full of simple abundance. I am so very grateful for days like these. Gods love seems tangible in everything seen and done.

 

Perfect days. Perfect faces. Perfect Smiles.